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What do you do when you make a mistake? You see what part of it was yours. You take responsibility and let go of the self-defense.
Then you say you’re sorry.
Then you try to learn about and heal that part of yourself that led to the mistake. And you try to make amends.
“I’m sorry. I love you.” Repeat. To the universe. As you heal yourself, you heal others.
I made a mistake this week. I know better. I said things that hurt someone I like and respect a good deal. I realized I’d caused hurt, and I apologized. I was laughing about something just because it made me uncomfortable, I said, which was the truth. I was understood and forgiven on the spot. I didn’t forgive myself, though. That takes longer. Looking at what happened, I made a plan to get more comfortable with that issue. In order to say fewer hurtful things, some people try to watch what they say. That never works.
The beauty of working on yourself, at the thoughts and love level, is that you don’t have to watch what you say if you see more clearly, if you judge less and understand more.
Quest for Meaning is a program of the Church of the Larger Fellowship (CLF).
As a Unitarian Universalist congregation with no geographical boundary, the CLF creates global spiritual community, rooted in profound love, which cultivates wonder, imagination, and the courage to act.