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I was listening to a tape about health during my hospital stay, and it defined health as the ability to fully participate in one’s life. That stopped me. I had to rewind the tape and listen again. Maybe I’d heard wrong, lost my concentration; surely I must have missed something. But no. The tape said, “Health is the ability to fully participate in one’s life.”
It was quite a jolt. Here I was, hardly able to get out of bed by myself, but I was participating fully. I was smelling my roses and listening to my tape and trying to figure out why some of the nurses seemed mad at my nurse and enjoying my broth and looking forward to my next visitor. Was I, in short, being healthy?
I had to cry over that for a while. I had been thinking that I’d lost my health. I had been grieving that loss, even while doing everything in my power to get it back. But if health is the ability to fully participate in your own life, then it is possible to be vibrantly healthy in spite of handicaps, lurking illness, pain, even depression. It is possible to fully participate in your life when you’ve had cancer. The gift of illness, for as long as one survives to enjoy it, is the motivation to even more fully participate than you might have if you had stayed blissfully well.
I have a friend who is a long term cancer survivor. She has gotten a lot out of being in a cancer support group in her small town. One of the regular features of this group is that every semester the local school of social work sends one of its (usually young) students over to observe and learn. The young social work students are often stunned at how happy and free these cancer survivors seem, even though many are enduring difficult treatments, relapses, and the possibility of premature death.
The group members get a big charge out of explaining to student observers that the group itself helps them to take their illness and wring its gifts from it, so they can return to the rest of their lives knowing what is important to them and determined to participate fully. That is health.
Quest for Meaning is a program of the Church of the Larger Fellowship (CLF).
As a Unitarian Universalist congregation with no geographical boundary, the CLF creates global spiritual community, rooted in profound love, which cultivates wonder, imagination, and the courage to act.